Subject: Fathers can be Great Men
From: "Fatherhood Foundation" <[email-masked]>
To: "Warwick Marsh" <[email-masked]>
Date: Tue, 10 Apr 2007 14:15:30 +1000

Issue No. 128-7th February, 2005

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Disillusioned Dads

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Thought for the Week

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Dear Warwick,

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Disillusioned Dads

Dear diary,

3am I have just returned from a night out. A break I guess you

would say. I had arranged to meet a guy from our group, our new

centre manager at the local, just to have a few and a break from

the work. It was an interesting night as I had put this guys mobile

number as the second call on my messages. He probably received at

least 4 or 5 calls from distressed dads while we were there. I met

another guy who stuck with us for most of the night and heard

variations of his story throughout the night interspersed with see

that one kissing that guy over there, well she's got a husband at

home waiting for her, what a ........!he would say. He introduced

me to several other guys throughout the night with similar stories

of being dumped or being the dumper.

Whatever the story it was of a similar vain, either divorced or

separated, male or female, they were all suffering the same

complaint, disillusionment, I as per usual, must of had this beacon

on my forehead flashing on and off saying 'I'm a dad in distress,

come and talk to me about your problems regardless, they did.

My friend had said to me, 'Is it like this all the time' Well, yes it

is, I said. Sometimes people ask me what I do for a living and

sometimes I say I'm a butcher or I'm a storeman or whatever. Often I don't want to tell people what I do, not because I am ashamed, but because there follows a myriad of questions, inevitably leading to the telling of their stories. And everyone has a story to tell.

Sometimes I think  there is this million dollar contest and first

prize goes to the best story. Often it feels like people are trying

to better the last story.

The reality is, they just want to be heard, The reality is, we have a

generation of mums and dads, children, grandchildren, grandparents,

uncles, aunt's, friend's all affected by what we play out in the

loungerooms of our homes and in front of our children. We are in the

middle of a war where there are no winners especially our children.

We place a $ value on their heads and expect that to help in raising

them, when in effect what we are really saying is, whoever has

possession the most ,shall receive the most benefit.In effect we are

prostituting our own children. We fight over the amount of nights we

each have the children and who will benefit by FTB or Child Support.

We fight when we are 5 mins late or 5 mins early in pick up or drop

off. We fight over the phone or in person over the bitterness, the

angst, the hurt divorce or separation brings upon us. And all the

time our little ones are watching and listening and learning. God

help us for what we are teaching them.

I wanted to tell my story, I wanted to say why I wasn't with my

children tonight. But I guess that's why God gave us two ears and one mouth, to listen twice as much as we speak and when you do that, you learn a lot........................

Regards Tony Miller

Dads in Distress

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Grandfathers

If you keep telling your son something is wrong with him, sooner or later he'll believe it.

Follow every'that's wrong ' by saying what's right.

John E Anderson

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Laughter

A six year old boy told his father that he and little Mary next door were going to get married.

His dad asked where they would live, he replied that he and Mary had talked it over and they would live in the tree house his father had built.

Dad asked where will you get money to buy food, he replied that they talked it over and decided that if they pooled their allowances they would have money for food.

Dad asked what are you going to do if you have children, he replied that he and Mary had talked it over and agreed that if she laid any eggs, he would step on them.

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An exasperated mother, whose son was always getting into mischief, finally asked him, 'How do you expect to get into Heaven?'

The boy thought it over and said, 'Well, I'll just run in and out and in and out and keep slamming the door until St. Peter says, 'For Heaven's sake, Jimmy, either come inside or stay outside!''

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Single dads

Extreme child support ideas are offensive

By Elaine Brown

Shepparton News

3 February 2005

In conjunction with proposed family law reforms and the establishment of  family relationship centres throughout Australia, a ministerial taskforce  has been appointed to re-evaluate the Child Support Agency. A reference group has also been appointed to liaise with the taskforce, on matters relating to the agency.

The taskforce is scheduled to report back to government next month.  Should the agency continue to enjoy political confidence, then it is envisaged it may have expanded powers. Several recommendations are before the taskforce.

One of the most contentious relates to the proposed cancellation of

driving licences and/or other licences, in the pursuit of child support arrears.

The ability to access joint savings accounts is also being considered.

Second wives who are working are also being looked upon as a financial 'resource'.

Considering that child support monies are not a direct debt to the

Commonwealth, all extreme suggestions in the pursuit of funds are

particularly offensive, and border on the fraudulent.

The taskforce has been established in the expectation that necessary and beneficial reform to family law will follow.

The basic challenge for taskforce members, however, is to recognise the extent of the current gender war, which operates unabated.

It is disturbing that taskforce members appear ignorant of anti-masculine sentiment, particularly where radical, politically motivated factions are seen to have established their base in all arms of family law.

Through the manipulation of children, psychologically disturbed personnel willfully bring protective and responsible family men to their knees. Given the amount of hostile discrimination which emanates from agency  personnel towards father-parents, furthermore, coupled with the alarming high numbers of suicidal deaths of agency 'clients', the audacious  proposal to expand powers of this statutory authority is highly offensive.

The Child Support Agency is, I believe, a discredited government agency and must be dismantled and abolished, as a matter of urgency.

On June 30, 2005, the demise of a pernicious, hostile and obstructionist Senate is welcome relief. The Federal Government now has the privilege of actually being able to govern. Reformation of a cowardly and corrupt  family law system is a priority.

The responsibility of the taskforce, however, is onerous. Members need to get it right the first time.

To ensure the future protection of young boy children, in particular,

removal of the predatory gender-biased canker operating within family law is paramount.

Failure to reform, and reinstate civil rights and natural justice to

divorced men and their dependent children, is to ensure the ongoing social emasculation and oppression of another generation of young family men and their future children.

This is not the perceived intention of government.

Elaine Brown, Kangaroo Flat

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News & Info

Last weeks personal letter was mistakenly
attributed to the incorrect name and the
editor apologises for any inconvenience
caused.

Large Response to Family Law Reform Plans

The Commonwealth Government's proposals to reform the family law
system by keeping child custody disputes out of court have drawn
a large response from the public, receiving more than 400 written
submissions.
Attorney-General Philip Ruddock thanked those who provided input
on the proposals,including community groups, service providers,
peak bodies, relevant agencies and other stakeholders who met
with departmental officers, as well as the individuals and
organisations who made submissions.

'The Government greatly appreciates the effort that people have
made to contribute their ideas on the development of the new
system,' he said.

He said the proposed reforms were the most significant in the
30 years since the Family Law Act  was introduced and
consequently needed to be implemented carefully.

'As family law issues touch the lives of many people,
community input on reforms to the family law system is
vital,' Mr Ruddock said.
At the centre of the proposals is the establishment of a
network of 65 Family Relationship Centres, intended to help
parents reach a child custody agreement quickly and peaceably,
as well as providing couples with access to relationship
education and help to families experiencing relationship difficulties.

Another planned amendment to the Family Law Act  seeks to
prevent custody disputes going to court, by requiring parents
to make use of the Centres' dispute resolution services before
filing with the Family Court.

Other measures will be aimed at making family law cases involving
children's matters that do go to court less adversarial and less
likely to increase conflict.

Mr Ruddock said the Government would take the views expressed
during the meetings and in the submissions into account.

'The information and ideas obtained through the consultation have
been very useful and will be of great benefit to the Government
as it considers the final package of reforms,' he said.
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'devastating evidence of Gender Inequaties in the home'

The Weekend Australian last weekend has an very interesting article
about men at work (in the family) seen through the eyes of
Pru Goward, Sex Discrimination Commissioner.
It is titled 'Lets' talk about Sex and is hidden in the
weekend magazine section.

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Dad's Prayer

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